Do I Really Want A Ring On It
For some women putting a ring on it means losing their single friends and losing that fun party life. Society believes that men are scared of commitment, well that might be true. Now, some women are getting scared like some men because of what the new life entails and the single friends that are leaving behind.
The message that women usually hear is: Marriage is the holy grail of happiness. Do you still believe that? Remember those strong feelings you had when dating him? How long should you wait before texting him back? Is he thinking about you? What did he mean when he made that comment? It seems silly now that he has popped the question.
It’s crazy how we allow society to let us believe that if we are single happiness eludes us. What about those friends that are in relationships and they start wondering that their boyfriends don’t love them enough to pop the question? It’s weird because you want your friends that have been with you through the ups and downs and even the trials and tribulations that you went through with him to be by your side through this happy moment.
Can these women comfort you only when you’re miserable? Who wants to believe that your besties that have been with you through all the breakups are going to have a hard time being happy for you? Then you begin to realize It’s really not so bad after all, because the friends you have that are married that you weren’t so happy for at a time start to come out of nowhere to comfort you and tell you the positive outcomes that come out of him wanting you to be his wife. Then those besties get over that feeling of not being that happy for you and start to be there for you.
Do you really want a ring on it, sure you do!
Well I can def speak and say marriage for me was a lessoned learned...my same friends that was there before are still here and love them for that...some ppl feel that they don't need friends and that good friends are hard to find..well they are so when you have a good one...hold on to them..because when that man puts you through things(which he will) you'll be thankful to have that true friend to run too:)
ReplyDeleteI believe having a ring on it is serious and need to be thought out and plan well. Marriage is just not a drug that cures that person faults you are just going to have that same problem in the marriage. Before people get married need to be friends and build before people jump in marriage. I have dated my Husband for 12 years yes that is a long time but I can say truthfully that I'm glad, just like any test God brings us through I'm glad we went through them. We are close like butter and rice we stick together and we build together. Some people still have I and it should be US a lot of people say when you get married you lose your friends. You only lose the fake ones and people that is in relationship need to stop telling there friends whats going on in there relationship anyways. We are so busy telling our friends when we need to be addressing the issue with our spouse or boyfriend. The ring is a symbol of hard work of trials and pain and to remember that we are ready to submit to each other to have each other backs. Submission is the key to a marriage Ladies you can me submitted and not lose yourself. It takes work and a willing heart and hard work and that person have to want to work at it also. I think couples need to all go through trials just like Jesus put us through to get the best out of us. We will never know our abilities until we have been tested on it. Be careful a Ring may make it or break it, it depends where you at and that special someone at also if its a bad place its goung to get even worst you just will be married dealing with the same problems.. If its in a good place then its up to you and the special someone to renew each other mind and keep working buiding and empire. Dating is a lot of work but Marriage is beautiful and right in Gods eyes marriage is so loving I really truthfully can say I married my soulmate. WHY? Hard Work it didnt come over night a lot of people are in a rush these days slow down and grow first and experience.I can go on and on but a Ring is a (Symbol). Last Tip: If you are willing to go slow and have patience and survive like any other test in your life with that person you may have found your soulmate.
ReplyDeletei think some women just think a lil too much but then again some of the men today are dog cause i know a few lol s i realy cant say too much but with some of the guy u women like u should know the out come there guy out here like my self that will do any and anything for a young lady and wont get the tme of day to a guy that gt thatnice car of loads of money
ReplyDeleteIt is of my opinion that when one makes the choice to commit and get married, other relationships will change and for the sake of the marriage they should change. Your relationship with your spouse should become the priority. Of course you will keep your friends but you must be careful that your spouse remains number one.
ReplyDeleteOf course I want him to put a ring on it. Thats just about every girls dream is to have a nice wedding and live the family life. I also do believe though that marriage is something that cant be rushed and you have to be doing it for the right reason if you want it to last.In the end if you have true friends they will be there for you no matter what.Whether your single or engaged they will be there always.So, yes I want a ring on it but when the time is right!!
ReplyDeleteBefore excepting the ring exam all characteristic including friends, if their are not there to add too (edify) your marriage then you must subtract (-) many ways family, friends and lovers...
ReplyDeleteIn Britain, King Lear, in old age, chooses to retire and divide up Britain between his three daughters. declaring that they be wed before being given the land. The King asks his daughters the extent of their love for him. The two oldest, Goneril and Regan, both flatter him with praise and are rewarded generously with land and marriage to the Duke of Albany and the Duke of Cornwall, ( GREED) respectively. Lear's youngest and most beloved daughter, Cordelia, refuses to flatter her father, going only so far as to say that she loves him as much as a daughter should. she refuses to profess blinding love for her father, instead offering only that which is true. Standing by her decision of professing her love, she exclaims that "I cannot heave / My heart into my mouth: I love your majesty / According to my bond; nor more nor less"(GOD FIRST) Unlike her sisters, Cordelia decides "To speak and purpose not;" (to say what one does not mean). Lear, unjustly enraged,(JEALOUSY) gives her no land.
Gloucester then brings the King of France and the Duke of Burgundy in and Lear offers Cordelia to Burgundy, though without a dowry of land, contrary to a previous agreement. Burgundy declines,(SELFISH MOTIVE) he stops seeking Cordelia's hand in marriage when Lear makes it clear that she no longer highly esteemed in Lear's eyes. Cordelia rejects this Duke for whom wealth is so important. ' Peace be with Burgundy! Since that respects of fortune are his love, I shall not be his wife'. Upon learning of Cordelia's fall from favor (wealth), this King who can respect Cordelia's integrity, takes her as his queen.(HONORS HER) The King of France's comments I makes this clear: "Fairest Cordelia, that art most rich, being poor! Thee and thy virtues here I seize upon:but the French King, impressed by Cordelia's steadfastness, takes her as Queen of France. Next, Lear passes all powers and governance of Britain down to Albany and Cornwall.
Message: Regardless of who is requesting for our relentless love. Both marriage and singleness are gifts from God. One is not morally better than the other. And both are valuable to accomplishing God's purpose. It is important for us, therefore to accept our present situation. Examine intent and motive for end result. Focusing on God's will and Divine connection for our lives. Patience is a virtue when your honest and in love with God inside of you first. Continue to reach for your God given dreams and visions...Mr. Divine follows...IAMMYBROTHERSKEEPER
Yeah she really wants a ring on it,what woman doesn't?Friends seem to be more valuable to women than they do to men so its not a shocker when a guys wife is constantly seeking advice from her friends(whether they be single or married).Speaking from experience marriage is a very rough journey that should not be taken lightly on either side. Friends do come and go but common sense should be able to tell you which friends you need to keep around and which ones you need to dump.Ladies keep the friend that is trying to help you build and nurture your marriage but drop the friends that are trying to hook you up with potential one-night stands.
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