HOW DO YOU KNOW?
He tells you that he loves your moles, even the ones he hasn’t discovered as of yet. He loves your chill bumps on your skin when you get cold. He tells you that he is not perfect. How do you know?
When you finally meet that guy that you and your friends discuss is your dream man over dinner or a girls night out, what do you do when he is standing right in front of you? How do you know? You ask yourself is he this sweet and does he tell you all of this because he is just lame or trying to play you? Or could he be on the down low? How do you know? When the man that stands in front of you tells you that he wants to make a life with you and he knows that you have been hurt before and that you fired all of the other men in your life and this is one job he does not want to lose. How do you know? Just when it seems like it’s the right time that he has come into your life you make excuses and tell yourself that it’s a bad thing when you know it’s not. When you are waiting for this man to make a mistake so you can feel better and decide to finally open up, how do you know? You’re so use to getting hurt and messed around on that this man can give you so many compliments you think something is wrong. He is strong, smart, caring, a family man and no drama. He wants to be there for you. He is a man in so many ways from him building his way from nothing to an important person. How Do You Know?
Ladies and gentlemen this is a very special column for me. I would like for you to reply to this column. Are you that women now or ever been or even that man? because it happens to all of us. Tell me How Do You Know?
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I don't like this...I Love It!!! Im going through a similar scenario myself with a very special women. She is a strong, independent, beautiful, classy, intelligent women. I mean she doesn't even NEED a man in her life and she would still be happy!! When I first met her I knew she had been hurt and didn't have time for any games and/or immature guys...As time flew by I found myself catching feelings for this women but I had to wonder did she felt the same way?? The answer to "How Do You Know?" is simple..so let me tell you...You know when he does anything to make you smile....You know when he wants to be the perfect gentlemen to make you happy...You know when he appreciates everything about you...You know when he smiles its because of you...You know he cares because he is honest and care about your feelings...You know when he messes up and does whatever it takes to make things right...You know when you are able to bounce back from negative situations and make them positive...You know when that special person is always there for you regardless of what happens...You know when that person is always on your mind....You know when that person learns the little things that you appreciate from anything like a drink to holding on to movie tickets and grape laffy taffys only to make her smile...thats the answer to "How Do You Know"
ReplyDeleteloved your blog these are all important things to consider but if u have that little love blossom in ur stomach go for it! nothing ventured nothing gained right??So......take a chance, or you may always wonder what could have been??Ill be a regular reader;)
ReplyDeleteIts actually kinda of complicated to know if he is actually the one.The reason I say that is because we all know its good in the beginning so its a given you will feel special and butterflies when you are with him.If that feeling continues then you might have a winner.You really have to figure out what the persons motives are.No one is perfect so all you can do is go in being optimistic and hope that everything he is telling you is the truth.I think you know when they are the one when you cant stop thinking about that person and they make you happy and love to keep a smile on your face.If he is the one he will make you feel like you are the prize and will do anything to and everthing to make sure you stay his prize and his only!!
ReplyDeleteI love this...Just being honest I dont think anybody really knows I think that you have to be willing to take a chance.
ReplyDeleteI feel you know he's the one when you feel like there's nothing better. When you see him & get butterflies in your stomach. When all the love songs on the radio are pertaining to You & Him. Basically you can't live without him:)
ReplyDeleteIn due time...only time will tell...firm believer in actions speak louder than words! So you can tell me anything but what u show me mean alot more!! We all wana trust and believe, it's human nature!! We all wana be happy and loved! Sometimes what seems to good to be true, really is! That's only because we tend to fall so quick simply because of the failed relationship in the past so when a breath of fresh air comes along we tend to run with it in hopes that finally we hit the jackpot. Well keep in mind no one is perfect, expect the unexpected! Don't let ur guards down So soon...now I'm not talkn abt not indulging in this wonderful feeln he gives but just don't think with ya "juicebox"..be wise and allow what's good, we all DESERVE IT!! When it's TRUE LOVE, trust me it will Reveal it's self in due time!! But in the mean time......ENJOY THE RIDE!!! :)
ReplyDeleteToo Sweet!!! I know it cause I look at Him daily and He whispers softly, While affirming His Pre-existence and eternal deity. I am the Bread of Life, I am the Light of the World, I am the resurrection, I am way, the Truth and the Life, I Am the true Vine...But God if I am for you My Love who could be against you...Jesus Christ...The Real Man that keeps His promises...IAMMYBROTHERSKEEPER...
ReplyDeleteHow Do You Know? In relationship I believe you have to start out as friends first. Get to know that person and how they think how they act on different occasion and different days. What is there likes and dis likes. Before you get a job you have to be interview for that job. So the company can get to know you and see if you fit the description they are looking for. So many people just jump right in to a relationship without getting to know that person. After months a person will show they true colors if you pay attention to there actions. If people start out as friend you will see how they treat there family there siblings everything.How Do You Know? You love to read and you have certain authors and certain genre you like to read. So you see what the book is about and you get interested. So now you see that book is awesome romance,sweet,and non fiction. See real relationship last when you can ask a person if they get Fat would you still love them. A real couple will say yes. How Do You Know? Real couples do not operate on emotions and stuff. How Do You Know? You know when the things you can live with out ways the things you cant live with. If you have more things you cant live with that the person will not change own ther own. The relationship will not work but if that person have potential where you can build and empire with them you have a go. You only know through experience no gut feeling no sign by experience because if you dont experience now you will experience later. How Do You Know? When its more things you can live with then things you can not live with. Remember you can not change anybody that is God business. The formula of... How Do You Know? Wrote down a list of Good Flaws and Bad Flaws GOOD HAVE TO WIN!!! AND PRAY :)
ReplyDeleteInfatuation is when you think he's as sexy as Robert Redford, as smart as Henry Kissinger, as noble as Ralph Nader, as funny as Woody Allen, and as athletic as Jimmy Conners. Love is when you realize that he's as sexy as Woody Allen, as smart as Jimmy Connors, as funny as Ralph Nader, as athletic as Henry Kissinger and nothing like Robert Redford - but you'll take him anyway. ~Judith Viorst, Redbook, 1975
ReplyDeleteHonestly I Dont think you can tell right off the bat.I think you have to learn about him more and start off as friends..some guys tend to use this type of scenario where they know women have been hurt and need a rescuing type of Guy to come along and fix things but they end up hurtin us even more. You have to start off as friends just to be sure and then only time will tell. Infatuation causes the butterflies but thts like having a temporary crush. If the butterflies are there every time you think about and see tht person then maybe there's something there but again only time will tell...
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This was nicely put! You just got to take a risk and go for it, but be smart about it. If you've been hurt before, you can kind of look for those signs and be cautious to make sure you don't fall for the same traps....sometimes it may work, sometimes not, but relationships are a gamble, just got to play your chips the best you know how. Trust and believe i know, dated so many people, but I'm now bout to get engaged to my best friend of 10 years, but I'm grateful for the hurts, so when I found the one, I knew how to treat her and appreciate a real woman!!!!
ReplyDeleteEveryone has been through this same situation. I've learned that if you are notwill to try then you will never know. Maybe this person is the right one but you will never know if you are not willing to give it a try. He may just be the man that God sent to you. In life you live and you learn.
ReplyDeleteHow do you know if he's the right one? I think sometimes you know, other times you just dont. God gives us a special sense or (discernment) meaning that he gives us an inner voice to guide us in our daily lives, as women and humans we choose to ignore that voice and do our own thing, and that is when we end up in BAD, ABUSIVE and HURTFUL relationships. I think many times people who we become involve with gives us signs that they are not the right person, however we choose to ignore those signals thinking we can change that person when we become more involve with them. We may think its cute that he's jealous cause he cares, BUT... these are signs of what may or may not come, but again we choose to look pass these signals. There are times when we are so hurt and messed up inside that a good man may come into our lives but we are not in the right place to accept or receive this love, and so we do things to ruin the relationship. We may say or do things to hurt the person thinking this will cause them to go away.
ReplyDeleteI think you have to be in a place where your self esteem is good, self love is intact and your head and hear is in the right place and ONLY then can you take on the JOB to become involve with someone for a meaningful and loving relationship.
At the end of the day marriage is a institute. And with that in mind it is best that you go, however you don't have to go. Just like going to college you will have better chance of doing better in life.And for some not getting married suits them well. They do well and are content at that status: of not being married or "living in sin".To each his own.
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